118: The Key to Creating Mind-Blowing Intimacy
LISTEN TO THE SHOW: The Key to Creating Mind-Blowing Intimacy If you’re longing for intimacy with your man like I used to and not getting it, you may not feel like there’s a key to creating it.
117: How to Accomplish More by Doing Less
LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Accomplish More by Doing Less When everything in your marriage feels like it’s on your shoulders, it’s pretty exhausting and stressful. If your to-do list is a mile long but never gets you any closer to feeling relaxed, supported, and taken care of, then I’m excited to share a connection and intimacy superpower that will.
116: How to ask for what you want in marriage
LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Ask for What You Want in Marriage Getting what you want in your marriage is important. The whole world depends on strong families, which means strong marriages, which means it’s important to feel that your desires are being met.
115: How to Get More Help from Your Husband
LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Get More Help from Your Husband It’s so lonely and exhausting when you feel like the only one responsible for everything at your house. I remember how stressful it was when I was the sole breadwinner at our house and felt like I was doing all the housework and bill paying too. Talk about overwhelmed! And resentful.
114: 4 Fail-Safe Secrets to a Long and Happy Romance
LISTEN TO THE SHOW: 4 Fail-Safe Secrets to a Long and Happy Romance If there really are sure-fire secrets to a long and happy romance, wouldn’t you think somebody would write them down and teach them in every high school all over the world? Is there anything more important to learn in life than how to make your marriage last and thrive? I can’t think of it.
113: How to Stop Your Husband from Divorcing You
LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Stop Your Husband from Divorcing You When is it too late to stop a divorce? It’s not too late for you. How do I know? Well, if you’re still married and finding this podcast, that tells me you want your marriage to last and also that you still have hope, even if sometimes you forget where you put it or it’s so small you
112: 2 Ways to Hear His Heart Message
LISTEN TO THE SHOW: 2 Ways to Hear His Heart Message Imagine you could wave a magic wand to make your marriage the way you want it to be. How would it be different? Maybe your husband would do a lot more chores or be more attentive and affectionate, seeking your company and kissing you whenever he got the chance.
You Are Not a Smaller, Less-Hairy Man
M arriage counselors tend to treat husbands and wives as if they want the same things and bring the same gifts to the relationship.
Your Birthright as a Woman
My whole life, I was taught that men and women are the same. Sure, there are some obvious physical differences, but I believed those were superficial. I pretended that biology didn’t affect my mind and spirit. I also denied that I had any special gifts as a woman—as if the world and I would be just fine without acknowledging those gifts.
The Gifts of the Feminine
We’re all a unique mix of feminine and masculine characteristics to varying degrees, of course. But there are some big advantages to being a woman that have been downplayed over the past fifty years. Here are some things that I sort of knew but didn’t fully understand or embrace about my power as a woman:
Self-Care Expands Your Time
After a few weeks, Marni was doing a lot better at finding time to do pleasurable things, and a funny thing happened. She told me her time had expanded.
Plan Pleasure First
Does that seem impractical or unrealistic to you? That’s what I thought too. I’m actually a big fan of practical, and it turns out that pleasure planning is a very practical thing for a woman to do. The indispensable first step to having a great relationship is to make yourself happy by practicing self-care.
Why We Man Up at Work
When I talk about feminine gifts, I want to be clear that I’m not talking about manipulation or taking advantage of anyone. Those are not quali- ties that anyone wants in a partner. I’m talking about simply relaxing into your femininity so that you naturally receive the pleasant things your man wants to give you.
The More You Know What You Want, the Better
M arriage counseling typically focuses on the other person: what he’s not doing or what he does that you don’t like. It may include conversations focused on what he is thinking or what he wants, instead of learning to look inward for answers.
