106 Racial Trauma: What's Going On? Part 1
I am joined today by Wendell Moss. Wendell is a therapist, an instructor at the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology, and part of The Allender Center teaching staff. We discuss a blog post Wendell wrote for The Allender Center called, “Racial Trauma: The Marks We Bear.” Topics covered include the importance of...
105 Complicity: Why Sexual Abuse Is So Damaging and How To Address It
Complicity often haunts people with a history of trauma more than anything else. The essence of complicity is the sense that I volitionally participated in my own abuse. In today’s episode, I outline four ways in which we may feel complicit in our abuse, and then talk about how to address the feeling of complicity by...
What is the central tenet of all story work?
One central tenet of all story work is that in order for healing to occur there has to be an honest naming of what ...
What is Cyndi Mesmer's story?
It’s a story of the exploitation of innocence and the violation of trust. We talk about Cyndi’s trauma response, how she has experienced ...
What is the name of the story Jen Oyama Murphy wrote?
Jen Oyama Murphy shares a story she wrote for The Allender Center called “My Eyes.” Evil often assaults us through the cursing of others. When a part of our body is cursed—especially during our growing up years—we tend to turn ...
How old is Kellay in the story?
Today we have the honor of hearing a story from Kellay. In the story, Kellay is ten years old and her brother is 15. Sometimes other family members take up so much emotional space in your home that there is ...
When is Rachel Clinton Chen's conference?
Rachael Clinton Chen provides an overview of the marks of spiritual abuse. She will be teaching a conference on spiritual abuse on Saturday, June 5.
Who wrote the book Get Your Life Back?
Last year John Eldredge wrote an important book called Get Your Life Back. In today’s episode, John and I talk about my favorite parts of his book. In short, we talk about simple everyday practices that will help you get ...
Is the past dead?
Here’s the bottom line with parenting: the past isn’t dead; it’s not even past. Your past experiences in life are profoundly influencing how you interact with, and parent, your children. Every parent knows what it’s like to lose it with ...
What is the name of the story Jen Oyama Murphy wrote for the Allender Center?
Jen Oyama Murphy shares a story she wrote for The Allender Center called “My Eyes.”. Evil often assaults us through the cursing of others. When a part of our body is cursed—especially during our growing up years—we tend to turn on ourselves. Wars with shame and self-contempt begin.
What happens to the nervous system when you are in a relationship?
This is Part 2 of a discussion about what happens to your nervous system in the midst of relational conflict. When your body scans your relational environment and detects anything that feels remotely threatening, it triggers your nervous system to do one of three things: socially engage (i.e. talk to the other person), go into a fight/flight/freeze reaction (i.e. yell at the other person, run away from them, or just freeze up in a state of paralysis), or shut down (collapse into a state of hopeless despair). In today’s episode, I explain why your body might opt to shut down. I also outline the difference between the freeze response and the shut down response. To financially support the podcast, please click here .…
When is Rachel Clinton Chen's conference?
Rachael Clinton Chen provides an overview of the marks of spiritual abuse. She will be teaching a conference on spiritual abuse on Saturday, June 5. You can sign up here .
How does trauma affect the brain?
Trauma impairs integration in the brain. When you experience trauma, the neural circuits in various regions of your brain do not make enough connections with one another. Here’s the good news: there is something you can do to promote integration in your brain. In the...
What is Warfare Part 7 about?
Warfare Part 7: The Modern Screwtape Letters. The title of this episode comes from a book by C.S. Lewis called The Screwtape Letters. The Screwtape Letters is a collection of letters written from a senior demon, named Screwtape, to his nephew Wormwood (a lower ranking demon). Screwtape’s goal is to advise... read more.
What is the curse of the body?
The Cursing of the Body and Racial Trauma. Jen Oyama Murphy shares a story she wrote for The Allender Center called “My Eyes.”. Evil often assaults us through the cursing of others. When a part of our body is cursed—especially during our growing up years—we tend to turn on ourselves.
Why is it so hard to trust your gut?
Why Trauma Makes It Hard to Trust Your Gut. One of the byproducts of trauma is that you lose a sense of being able to trust your body. You begin to distrust your gut knowledge of what is true because the people around you question your reality. In today’s episode, Janet explains how this has played out in her...
Why engage your story?
Why Engaging Your Story Requires Anger at God. Sometimes, “the place we find ourselves” is a place of anger at God. Many Christians feel ashamed if they find themselves angry at God. But if you engage the heartache and pain of your story, there will inevitably be times where you are angry at God.
What does affect mean in psychology?
“Affect” refers to your moment by moment experience of your internal bodily sensations. Think of affect on a scale of 1-10, where 1 represents completely numb and shut down and 10 represents panic, rage, or terror. On this scale, 5-6 represents a slight feeling of...
What is the 4th part of warfare?
Warfare Part 4: Your Authority. When it comes to resisting the assaults of evil against your heart, the starting place is stepping into the authority that is yours. Jesus Christ has set you up to succeed in warfare with evil. However, it’s essential to get clear about the authority that Jesus has...
