How old was Gary when he was a counselor?
Gary tells a story that happened when he was 10 years old, and he explains how he made a commitment at...
Why engage your story?
Why Engaging Your Story Requires Anger at God. Sometimes, “the place we find ourselves” is a place of anger at God. Many Christians feel ashamed if they find themselves angry at God. But if you engage the heartache and pain of your story, there will inevitably be times where you are angry at God.
Is the past dead?
Here’s the bottom line with parenting: the past isn’t dead; it’s not even past. Your past experiences in life are profoundly influencing how you interact with, and parent, your children. Every parent knows what it’s like to lose it with their children.
What is the name of the story Jen Oyama Murphy wrote for the Allender Center?
Jen Oyama Murphy shares a story she wrote for The Allender Center called “My Eyes.”. Evil often assaults us through the cursing of others. When a part of our body is cursed—especially during our growing up years—we tend to turn on ourselves. Wars with shame and self-contempt begin.
Who is Dan Allender?
Dan Allender is the reason this podcast exists. His teaching forms the foundation of nearly every episode. Dan joins me today to talk about how to engage your story and how to engage your suffering. In many ways, this is a conversation about how Dan has experienced God in the midst of his own story. Dan also talks...
What is Cyndi Mesmer's story?
It’s a story of the exploitation of innocence and the violation of trust. We talk about Cyndi’s trauma response, how she has experienced ...
What is the name of the story Jen Oyama Murphy wrote?
Jen Oyama Murphy shares a story she wrote for The Allender Center called “My Eyes.” Evil often assaults us through the cursing of others. When a part of our body is cursed—especially during our growing up years—we tend to turn ...
How does trauma affect the brain?
Trauma impairs integration in the brain. When you experience trauma, the neural circuits in various regions of your brain do not make enough connections with one another. Here’s the good news: there is something you can do to promote integration ...
What is the central tenet of all story work?
One central tenet of all story work is that in order for healing to occur there has to be an honest naming of what ...
What is the nature of abuse?
Whether it’s sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse—the nature of abuse is that there is an intensity between the two people involved. When a parent abuses a child, the intensity at play serves to bind their ...
How old is Kellay in the story?
Today we have the honor of hearing a story from Kellay. In the story, Kellay is ten years old and her brother is 15. Sometimes other family members take up so much emotional space in your home that there is ...
Why is the nervous system constantly surveying?
Your nervous system is constantly surveying your environment (think: relationships) to determine how safe and supported you feel. When your body scans the environment and detects anything that feels remotely threatening, it triggers your nervous system to do one of ...
